It’s terrifying to be in the hole. You can be in the hole financially, relationally, spiritually or morally. The hole is a very dark place, where you feel like you are completely screwed; that there is no way out… ever.
However, a very tall building requires a very deep hole; in fact the taller the building the deeper the hole.
Digging a foundation is dirty, horrible work; so if you are wallowing in shit far beneath the earths crust, perhaps you should consider the fact that you are a tall building in waiting, and the deep roots of an immovable foundation are being sown into your life. Do not fear, this digging and breaking down was always necessary.
It is painful, and I understand what you are going through.